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Message from the Senior Warden

Message from the Senior Warden

Some of you may know I am a member of a non-college affiliated International Sorority, Sigma Phi Gamma, and have been a member for 41 years. The sorority is based on friendship and service. It is structured with individual chapters which are regionally grouped into Provinces. The Provinces meet annually to discuss what happened in the previous year and make plans for the next year. My Province meets the 4th weekend in February. We also hold an annual convention of all members in June or July.

Sigma Phi Gamma will be celebrating its 100th anniversary in 2020, and our membership is concerned that there might not be many members around to celebrate. So among the topics of constant discussion at Province Meetings and the International Convention are recruitment and growth. Sound familiar?

At my recent Province Meeting, we were asked to write down how we became sorority members and what keeps us in Sigma Phi Gamma. It was a thought provoking exercise that could be applied to any organization, including St. Thomas’. How did you come to be a member of St. Thomas’? And why do you stay?

We also discussed what makes others appeal to you. Are you friendly? Do you offer assistance when asked, or even when you see assistance is needed, do you just jump in and help? Do you make suggestions and offer new ideas? Are you smiling? Are you welcoming? Or are you grumpy? Do you ignore strangers when they walk in the door? Do you hold back on ideas and suggestions? Are you constantly complaining instead of helping to do things better?

A positive, friendly person almost always appeals to someone as opposed to someone who is negative and non-welcoming. What kind of person are you? How do you portray St. Thomas’ to others? Let’s hope it’s the former, the positive and friendly person!

Diane Flayhart Senior Warden

Message from the Senior Warden


Two little words – “thank you” – but what an impact they can have on another person. Research shows that saying “thank you” is good for your health as well as your social relationships with other individuals. It promotes self-esteem, it boosts confidence, and it can actually lower your blood pressure! Saying “thank you” tells someone that they are appreciated, and how can that NOT make someone else feel better or improve your relationship with that person?

Too often we are caught up these days in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, running here and there, shopping, wrapping, baking, planning, etc., all for just a few minutes of happiness. However, we need to slow down and express our gratitude to the people around us – our friends and loved ones, the cashier at the grocery store, the clerk in the mall, the person who holds a door open or helps us when our arms are full.

More importantly, when was the last time you thanked God? When did your prayerfully thank him for all he’s given you? God’s presence is constantly with us. He looks out for us and helps us in subtle ways that you might miss because you’re busy doing all the things on your To-Do list. Take a moment to spend time with God and thank him for all he’s done.

And thank YOU for participating in the Loose Change Challenge … every little bit counts!!

Diane Flayhart, Senior Warden

Message from the Junior Warden

A Christmas candle is a lovely thing; it makes no noise at all, but softly gives itself away; while quite unselfish, it grows small. – Eva K. Logue

I found this quote some time ago and have never forgotten it. It makes me remember that this life we have been given is not for us to keep as we should like, but to be truly meaningful, as God intended, it must be given away, shared with others until, at last, emptied of all we have to give, it is extinguished. What a wonderful thought. To have the ability to spend our life giving to others. Imagine what the world would be like if we could really do that. But there’s work, and dealing with others who maybe aren’t having a good day, and worries about schedules and finances and parents and sickness, and…well the list goes on and on. Some days it’s not easy to give, is it?

Christmas is a time where giving is in the forefront of our thoughts. Primarily the buying, wrapping, and giving of gifts, but there is also that well-known feeling of Christmas Spirit; a little extra kindness or patience that grows as the holiday approaches, giving a smile comes easier as we feel the warmth of Christmas in our hearts.

I want to challenge you to join me in an endeavor this December. I want you to look for an opportunity each day to give something of your time, your talent, your treasure, or yourself (a smile can have great impact) to someone. The object being to make someone’s day a little better because you were there. A word of support or thanks, a helping hand, pay a toll for the guy behind you, whatever. There are no rules. How, what, when, who, and why are entirely up to you. My hope is that by the end of the month, we’ll all have an expanded practice of giving and will have shared our light with many more people than we might have otherwise.

One more quote, from a very wise man:

“Generosity brings happiness at every stage of its expression.
We experience joy in forming the intention to be generous.
We experience joy in the actual act of giving something.
And we experience joy in remembering the fact that we have given.”
– Buddha

Best wishes for a joyous Christmas!
Sharon Greenbeck, Junior Warden

Message from the Junior Warden

It’s November already. Wait…what?!? I realize, especially at this time of year, just how fast time goes by. In January we’re shuffling by, holidays are over and we’re waiting for the spring thaw. Then the trees and flowers start to bud, but we still have to get the kids to school, work, work, work…then BAM! It’s July! Oooh, that long-awaited vacation is coming! Aaannnd it’s over…the kids are back to school, and the holidays are around the corner AGAIN. A very condensed version of the year, I know, but as I’ve gotten older and my children have grown, I notice that my to-do lists get longer and the days get shorter. To quote an old saying… “So much to do…so little time.”

The property committee volunteers started out the summer with an ambitious to-do list, and I am truly humbled by what they accomplished. (That being said, I think the list is longer now). I want to shout out a big THANK YOU to the folks who gave, and continue to give up their time to work on the church property. Whether it’s fixing a bathroom soap dispenser, moving bricks or planting greenery, there is SO much that needs to be done…all the time! I also appreciate those who notice things and bring them to my attention. This church property seems to have gotten larger now that I know all the things that need to be done.

This season has always caused me to raise my often preoccupied heart in real gratitude for all that our loving God has given us. As we get into Fall, please take a moment to enjoy the bounty of colors, watch the leaves fall, enjoy the beautiful earth he has given us.

Message from the Senior Warden


Last month I touched on Gratitude, and asked what are you grateful for? I discussed the things at St. Thomas’, like having a place to worship and our ability to serve the community because of our many generous members and renters. I am also sure that you might be grateful for more personal things that touch you every day – a roof over your heads, food to eat, clothes to wear, the love of family and friends. Those are the same things we strive for at St. Thomas’ – a building to provide a safe and secure place for worship and community service, food to share with the Assistance Center of Towson Churches (ACTC), clothes to donate to Paul’s Place for those who have little to wear, and the love of fellow parishioners and community members. During our Stewardship Campaign this year in November, feel free to share what you’re grateful for and prayerfully consider how you might be able to share that gratitude through an increase in your pledge. Even just a small amount could make a difference to someone else.

Another way to show your gratitude for St. Thomas’ is to volunteer to serve as a Vestry Member. Nominations are open for two positions this year. Serving on the Vestry gives you an opportunity to share your ideas and help mold the path of St. Thomas’ in the future. Meetings are usually held on the second Sunday of the month after the 9:30 am church service, and there is a 2-day retreat (usually a Friday night and then Saturday day meeting) held once a year to plan for the upcoming year. The only age limit is that nominees must be at least 21 years of age, so that means you are eligible! If you are interested in serving, please contact one of the following members: Josephine Aikins-Afful, Tracey Daniels, Debbie Hood, Donna Lettow, Mary Beth Robinson, Amy Shimonkevitz, Chuck Shimonkevitz, Jim Stultz, John Windsor, Sharon Greenbeck, Rev. Loree, or me. If we don’t hear from you, you might hear from us. Please consider saying “Yes” if asked to serve.

And don’t forget, that Loose Change Challenge is still going … every little bit counts!!

Diane Flayhart, Senior Warden